What about Me?

In the Fall edition of The Old Schoolhouse magazine 2008 Amy Roberts www.homeschoolblogger.com/raisingarrows wrote about the ‘Me Time Myth.’ It is the idea that as Mums we need to have time away in order to be able to give. Everywhere you read, in magazines, on television, is the idea of me, me. Put me first they say and the rest will follow. The so called parenting experts will tell us that if we don’t take time out our children will suffer.

So, how true is this claim? It says in Colossions 2:8 "Beware, lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the traditions of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ."

Now, from a non Christian point of view, the world teaches us that we should look after our selves first. Of course a non Christian is not living in view of eternity, so the best they can do, is to make life as comfortable as necessary. On the other hand, we as Christians are not supposed to live for this world, but to look for our blessed hope, in heaven. We were called as servants for Christ, and in serving him we find joy, as we are free indeed. When we homeschool, it is going to take a lot more of our time, and we all have different family need, some having larger families, or sick children, or even may battle with illness themselves. So if we are not able to have time away, then what happens then? Do we feel resentful, or angry. I have been there, years ago, when I had 4 children, 4 and under, and my dh was away long hours. People would say, ooh, you need time to yourself you know. I began to think perhaps that was right as well. If we are not right in our attitude to our husband and children, then we are going to be resentful, if we however seek God first, then we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. I find that when we neglect God’s word we suffer. I guess it isn’t the bread of life for nothing! If we don’t eat, likewise, then we get weak.

We can be fulfilled in our calling as home educators, and we can find fulfillment. Think of the souls we are influencing, for God’s kingdom. What joy in heaven to be joined by our children! Jesus served, and humbled himself on earth. He was not born in grand surroundings, he lived in a normal home, and he served others. Oh, that we could have a serving spirit. I have a long way to go, mind you. If we take our burdens to Jesus, then he will refresh us and grant us peace and joy. The road is not always easy, and of course the world will scoff, as they cannot see our reason, they are blinded.

I would welcome any reflections, or thoughts on this. I am not being judgmental, but only seeking to encourage us all to first seek the Bible, and not be turned away. I would also say we all have times where we just need some time out. I had it recently with my youngest, as I had been dealing with teething night after night... I felt refreshed after a date with hubby. If you do not have a baby sitter, then often a walk, or just a hot bath while hubby watcheds the children helps!

Creativity

Everyone who knows me, knows I am not arty. I haven't an arty bone in my body. So, what I do, is I encourage the children to express themselves, and find their own way. One way which has really encouraged them, is giving them cameras, and of course with digital photography it is really easy to edit and delete. So, when they are around 9, I buy them a camera for Christmas, and when they are about 10, or 11 they get a camcorder. The best camcorders are the tape ones, and sadly you can only get them second hand now. However, you can get a really good one for £50 on ebay.

You would be surprised how it really encourages their creativity, and they will do interesting things, in the name of taking an interesting photo.
Take this one for instance:

Yup, that's right, it really was the face on our cat at the time, and the children decided a caption would be perfect!

Then there is just the plain crazy!

They are learning so much, and are now making their own short films. Cherry the eldest, has been learning about blue screen, and editing for film. She even composes the music, and dubs over. Quite clever really, and when they have their film nights it is quite entertaining.

Boston

In January, we visited Boston, on the South/East Lincolnshire coast. In case you don't know Boston is one of the places where the Pilgrim fathers sailed from. Why did they want to leave? Well, they saw England as more and more ungodly. They were persecuted from the Church of England, and became known as non conformists.

In 1607, a man to become known as Captain John Smith was born, in Willoughby, about 20 miles north east of Boston. He was the leading character, that founded Jamestown. Also, in 1607 a group of seperatists hired a Dutch vessel, to take them across the river Witham. Now, they were in one boat, and their wives in another, and the boat with the wives in became grounded, leading to their capture. They were however allowed to continue to Holland, and in 1620 boarded the Mayflower, and founded the Plymouth plantation.

By 1629, some 10,000 had left!

Population control

Hmm, it seems governments are making no secrets of their policies, now. Read this http://cnsnews.com/news/article/obama-adviser-argued-kids-big-families-have-lower-iqs
In particular this point:‎''The Obama administration has issued a regulation, set to take effect on Aug. 1, that will require all health-care plans in the United States to cover sterilizations, artificial contraceptives and abortifacients without any fees or co-pay. Many American religious leaders, including all of the nation's Roman Catholic bishops, have denounced the regulation as an attack on religious liberty because it will force many Americans to act against their consciences and the teachings of their faith.''
So, in other words, they are spending time giving negative representations of large families. So, in time no one in their right mind would want a large family, and those who do, are considered mentally unstable. Already a fact in Germany.
There are negatives about any family, that much is true, and of course large families are not exempt. However using all these controls is the devil's work to kill, steal, and destroy. Satan hates new life, especially born to Christian parents.
It is my conviction that children are a blessing from God, and that to murder through abortion, or an abortifacient birth control, is against God. Birth control was hailed as liberating to women, but has it really? By limiting families to one, or two, has it really given women freedom and power to do their thing? It was Eve's sin to want what she didn't have, and surely it is also discontentment, and being unthankful.
So let's look at the positives. If we are raising a large family for the Lord, then nothing can be more important. It can also be extremely fulfilling, too. The key is, we are servants, and this is what we have to remember. We are not here to serve ourselves, but to serve others. There is a joy in that.
In my 17 years of raising 10 children I have noticed several things:
1)They actually get more attention. As they get attention from siblings too, and there is always someone to play with/
2)Lots of conflict resolution is a positive thing, especially when it is done in a biblical, and loving way.
3) Good for the environment, believe it or not, as we utilise our resources well, hand down, and do not waste!
4) Less selfish, and learn that they have to work as a team, and that everybody's input is important.

Pancake Day!

For a quick and easy pancake recipe, mix one cup of plain wholemeal flour, 1 cup of milk, and 1 free range egg. Mix, and then fry. This much will make 3 or 4 large pancakes. So, just alter accordingly!

Kefir!

A while ago, while reading the Above Rubies magazine, I read about Kefir. Actually, my mum had also heard about it some years back, and was keen to try it, also.
Anyway, I was able to obtain some kefir grains for just £2, so thought I would give it go.
Before I carry on, some may wonder, (like I did) what on earth is kefir?
Basically, it is a fermented milk drink, a bit like a runny yoghurt in consistency, tastes similar to yoghurt, but almost sparkling, with a very refreshing zing.
It dates back to the shepherds, of the Caucasus mountains, who carried milk in leather pouches, where it would ferment into fizzy sour yoghurt. It is basically like cauliflour pieces, and is a mix of yeasts and microflora. Not a harmful yeast, but beneficial, and especially good in treating fungal ailments.
Why drink it?
Well, it has great health giving properties, it has probiotics in it, and as I just mentioned, great for anyone suffering with thrush, or even a stomach ulcer.
Once you have obtained the grains, they keep going, and going and going.
It is so simple, just put the grains in a clean jar, add milk (about 300 ml to 2 TBS). Give it a shake, and then leave on the countertop for 12-24 hours. You will see the grains first float to the top, and then when it is ready, when you give it a little shake, you will find it has thickened. Then you need to strain it, with a plastic strainer, and drink! You repeat the process with the grains, over, and over again.

Just make sure you use a thoroughly cleansed jar each time!

Trifle

Did I say trifle? Who knew I was going to post a recipe?
You American folk just have to try this. It seems you don't have custard over there, well, vanilla pudding might be a good sub, or you could simply make custard by heating some milk, then mixing a little cold milk with cornflour, sugar, vanilla flavour, and mixing in with boiled milk, then returning to the heat. It will gradually thicken. About 2-3 TBS of cornflour to every pint.
I have err, rather a lot of custard, erm 15 kilos at least, and it is the stuff you miz with milk, too! Slight mistake, as I thought I was ordering instant.

INGREDIENTS:
First, the day before, you need to bake the sponge, and when cooled, put in the fridge for the next day.
Just mix 2 eggs, with 100g caster, very fine sugar, till you can see the eggs turning white, then add 25g cornflour,1 teaspoon baking powder, and 45 g plain flour. Bake in a cake pan for about 30 mins, or until a skewer comes out clean.

The day after, just break up the cake you made, and add some fresh, or tinned fruit, some jelly, or a layer of jam, then add some fresh cooled custard. (could use ready made) Add onto that a layer of whipped cream, and some flaked almonds. Chill!
This can serve 12 easily, depending obviously on how much you make. I use 1 cake base, some jelly, 4 pints of custard, and 300ml whipped cream, and that serves 12!